Realities and Truth

HOME BUILDING - A PRIORITY  Our nation and churches are made up of families -nation/church is a composite of 'homes'. If the homes are out of order, then the nation/church that is the collective group of those homes is also going to be out of order. A nation/church can never be stronger than the families that comprise it. There is need for us to pay keen attention on our families. This world will be a better place if we choose to truthfully and lovingly attend to issues in our families. That way we will produce good seeds that will go out there and illuminate their world. Excuses for not performing our primary assignment within our families should be addressed as a matter of urgency. Solomon understood this when he was planning for a project. He drafted three times the number of workers needed for the Temple project and then arranged their schedules so they didn't have to be away from home for long periods. The home/families need great attention. He sent 10,000 men in shift...

COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIP  Communication is successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings. Communication goes beyond talking, it includes listening, validating the other person, affirming and complimenting. Communication can be verbal or non verbal. Lack of communication in a relationship is a sign of deeper things which affects intimacy. To avoid trouble, some people opt for the silent treatment which result to outburst that causes more problem. This may be because there has not been much result in past dialogues. No single rain drop is responsible for a flood. Communication breakdown in a relationship breaks it if not properly addressed or handled. We’re made to communicate. To have effective communication, the following must be considered; -Be honest with what you are saying.  -Don’t try to read the mind of the other person or prove a point. -Listen. Don’t try to be defensive. -Try to understand what is communicated. If possible ask questions to clarify  -B...

SUPPORT IN RELATIONSHIP   Support is a very critical issue in any relationship. In organizations, there are deputies who assist the main person assigned to lead the unit or team. There is a reason for this. It is a back up system to help the assignment remain functional. To support a person, you must be willing and align with the vision/plan to achieve the same objective. You can’t operate in a team without agreeing to do so. In a fellowship, the fellows are in the same ship, going towards the same direction. You can’t be going to the east and board a plane going to the west.  WHAT IS SUPPORT? Support is bearing all or part of the weight of; hold up; give assistance; enable to function or act. Having support is not a sign of weakness. God recognizes the importance of support that was why He said it is not good for a man to be alone. Support does not mean you abdicate your role or responsibilities to someone else. It only means you both work together, everyone playing his part,...

TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS Trust is an essential factor for any relationship to thrive. What is Trust? Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone. It is the acceptance of the truth of a statement without evidence or statement.  No good relationship can be in place without trust. There can’t be lack of trust without evidences of betrayal. A robust relationship is one in which the other person respects you and can be trusted and vice versa. Trusting each other in a relationship does not indicate perfection because we’re human. It is giving the other person room to express who they are. People bring into relationship what they have in their background, what they saw growing up. When people keep believing you when they shouldn’t, based on repeated happenings, and you take them for granted, the relationship will be grounded, it’s only a matter of time. Don’t wait until the relationship ends or things get out of hand before you make amends. ...