COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIP

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COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIP 

Communication is successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings. Communication goes beyond talking, it includes listening, validating the other person, affirming and complimenting. Communication can be verbal or non verbal. Lack of communication in a relationship is a sign of deeper things which affects intimacy. To avoid trouble, some people opt for the silent treatment which result to outburst that causes more problem. This may be because there has not been much result in past dialogues. No single rain drop is responsible for a flood. Communication breakdown in a relationship breaks it if not properly addressed or handled. We’re made to communicate. To have effective communication, the following must be considered;

-Be honest with what you are saying. 

-Don’t try to read the mind of the other person or prove a point.

-Listen. Don’t try to be defensive. -Try to understand what is communicated. If possible ask questions to clarify 

-Be able to talk freely and openly 

-Don’t hurt each other with words. It tears people apart. 

-Redirect a poorly spoken comment

-Be specific, don’t generalize 

-Avoid referring to past issues

-Commit the relationship into God’s hands. 

Success in communication is more likely when we invite God to be an active participant and guide.

evangelist R.A. Torrey said on prayer:

The reason why many fail in battle is because they wait until the hour of battle. The reason why others succeed is because they have gained their victory on their knees long before the battle came … Anticipate your battles; fight them on your knees before temptation comes, and you will always have victory.

communication is the tool that God has given us to knit our hearts and our minds together. We’ve all been called to God-honoring communication. 

In reality there will always be  point of disagreement but if we all take responsibilityto work on ourselves, the truth is, it will be a work over. Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flower not thunder. 

I leave you with this scriptures: Ephesians 4:29 KJV

[29] Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Proverbs 15:23 KJV

[23] A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it !


Folakemi Olukoyede

Comments

  1. Unknown20 May 2020 at 03:49

    Wow!!!
    Its a great read and a good information to help couples

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  2. Unknown20 May 2020 at 03:52

    I love this piece..
    Simple and easy to understand for couples

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  3. Ronky20 May 2020 at 04:25

    It is a crucial tool in any successful relationship. We are created to communicate; everything created by Our Maker, were done by the spoken word! Gen1:3-31.

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  4. Unknown20 May 2020 at 15:01

    I wish most couples can read this. It will help to strengthen and restore a lot of relationship.

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  5. Anonymous20 May 2020 at 23:18

    Thank you Folakemi for this enlightening piece.

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  6. Unknown18 June 2020 at 08:38

    Raise your word and not your voice ., ...hmmm
    Well said

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