SUPPORT IN RELATIONSHIP

SUPPORT IN RELATIONSHIP 

Support is a very critical issue in any relationship. In organizations, there are deputies who assist the main person assigned to lead the unit or team. There is a reason for this. It is a back up system to help the assignment remain functional. To support a person, you must be willing and align with the vision/plan to achieve the same objective. You can’t operate in a team without agreeing to do so. In a fellowship, the fellows are in the same ship, going towards the same direction. You can’t be going to the east and board a plane going to the west. 

WHAT IS SUPPORT?

Support is bearing all or part of the weight of; hold up; give assistance; enable to function or act.

Having support is not a sign of weakness. God recognizes the importance of support that was why He said it is not good for a man to be alone. Support does not mean you abdicate your role or responsibilities to someone else. It only means you both work together, everyone playing his part, to achieve the objectives. It may not necessarily mean superiority. Everybody can not take the lead at the same time to avoid commotion. What kind of support do you give in your relationship? If that support is withdrawn what will happen to the overall objective? Some people withdraw support because their focus is on the team lead not on the objective. If your support is withdrawn and it is not felt, it means you were busy doing nothing and renders you inconsequential. From the definition of support given in this article, it means bearing part of the weight of a thing. If you are really bearing part of the weight, when you withdraw, the whole thing would fall or crash. The absence must be felt. Every part of the body has a function and they support each other. When one, no matter how small, say the tongue, stops functioning, it will impact negatively on the objective.

The neck supports the head. If the neck becomes stiff, it affects the head and the ease of viewing things. 

Support in relationship requires involvement. It can not be likened to supporters club where you cheer the person. Like the right hand washing the left, it compliments each other. It’s mutual. They both get cleaned. Everybody wins. The outcome of a relationship affects the two parties involved and can also impact on others.

Support in relationship must be selfless. Aaron and Hur had to hold up the hands of Moses for the them to win the battle.

No support is too small or too big in a relationship. It depends on the role each one plays. Never feel you are doing too much. Why are you giving that support? Motive is very important in everything we do. Check your motive.

Everybody gives to support in a relationship. When you receive something of worth in a relationship, you must be willing to give something of worth too. Don’t give less than what you take. Nobody should be a parasite. 

Evaluate your role and assess yourself. Identify your area of strength and improve in your area of weakness. In realityeverybody in a relationship needs support but the truthis you may not get the kind of support you want. However God has a way of making everything work together for our good. So don’t be discouraged. When the support of man fails, God’s support is sure.

Folakemi Olukoyede